With a population of 240 million singles, marriage and love has always been considered one of the industries with a broad market. However, with “Qian Jing”, there are all kinds of scams.#花20万婚介费找的男友是婚托# The hot search on Weibo caused heated discussion. The hostess of the incident spent 200,000 yuan to get to know the male lead at a matchmaking agency. After borrowing one million yuan from the male lead, she “lost contact” the day before the wedding photo was taken. According to the police’s investigation, the male protagonist had been with 7 women at the same time… In fact, there are not a few marriage and love routines and scams, and marriage and love websites are the “distribution centers” of scams and the “hardest hit areas” of the routines.
“Pay a 200,000 yuan matchmaking fee and introduce me a scumbag?”
According to CCTV reports, Ms. Fang, who was single after divorce, found a matchmaking company, hoping to find a good marriage.
The clerk of the matchmaking company privately subcontracted Ms. Fang’s work to Ma, a marriage counselor, and Ma’s fee for the introduction service was as high as 200,000 yuan. After paying the service fee, Ma soon matched Ms. Fang to a man Gao and arranged for them to meet.
Gao revealed that he has multiple properties in Beijing and also properties in Hangzhou, and he is doing real estate investment. Ms. Fang believes that her family and economic situation are more in line with her own requirements. The two quickly established a relationship and became boy and girl friends. During the exchange, Gao started to borrow money from Ms. Fang in the name of investment. Later, the two reached the point of getting married, but just the day before they went to take the wedding photos, the fiancé Gao, who disappeared, disappeared together and Ms. Fang borrowed more than one million yuan from him.
The procuratorate verified that Gao had been with 7 women at the same time, and another Ms. Wang was defrauded of 1 million yuan in the name of matchmaking service fees. In August of this year, the People’s Procuratorate of Haidian District of Beijing filed a public prosecution against Gao for alleged fraud to the People’s Court of Beijing Haidian District, and Ma was approved to be arrested and dealt with in another case.
CCTV reported that Ma, the so-called marriage counselor, would also cooperate with salespersons in some matchmaking companies, allowing salespersons to introduce some of their clients. Then arranged marriage care Gao to communicate with the victim, earning service fees and referral fees. When Gao and the client begin to interact, Ma will personally teach Gao the disguise skills, and Gao will also record the conversation between the two and use it as a textbook for repeated learning.
An insider bluntly said that marriage care is a common method in matchmaking agencies, and there are male and female marriages. “If there is nothing to do on the weekend, it is considered a side job. Even dinner expenses can be reimbursed by an intermediary. However, it is usually occasional to help friends make up the number. It is a bit unscrupulous to do this for a long time.”
In the topic of #花200万婚介费找的男友是婚托#, some netizens said frankly: “I have been a nursery girl, and sometimes the matchmaker changes my personal information according to the other party’s request. Below.”
“After asking me to take out a loan to charge up the VIP, the girls all disappeared”
According to data from the Black Cat Complaint Platform, since 2021, there have been more than 24,000 complaints involving marriage and dating platforms. There are offline store-induced loans, emotional agencies false propaganda, and contract overlord clauses; online platforms induce recharges, malicious deductions, etc. There are many problems, even involving gray industries and suspected violations of the law.
A user in Shenyang responded to the Black Cat complaint. In May of this year, a staff member of Zhenai.com called himself and said that there were local girls who wanted to meet. Out of eagerness to find someone, I went with the mentality of having a look.
“The staff enthusiastically took me into a small house, asked about my housework, brainwashed me, and said that it was easy to find my spouse on Zhenai.com. They are all very good girls. I work in general, and the staff said it was okay. A boy like me can find someone, so I can rest assured that I will find the girl I like.”
The user said that he did not bring a lot of money at the time, and under the brainwashing of the staff, he finally paid 12,000 yuan in installments in Meituan. But to his disappointment, after the payment, the girls introduced by Zhenai.com were not very good, and then they all “evaporated”.
“Spent more than 10,000 yuan, but I didn’t find the target. I vowed to help me find the target. After paying the money, I delayed and cheated, but I repaid the loan every month. It’s really cannibal.”
There are also user complaints that when they first registered on Zhenai.com, many girls with beautiful avatars took the initiative to chat, or were defined by the website App as liking each other, but the messages sent could not be seen and could only apply for Zhenai members. But when you go through the process, you will find that it is an automatic question from the system and not a message that someone actively responded to. When you contacted her actively, there was no reply.
“I deeply felt that I was being tricked. I felt more and more that the online was full of photos of previous members. They used them as bots to induce everyone to be deceived. After applying for a cherished member of 248 yuan, I found out that an automatic questioning was set up after opening a member, and asked me to answer. What’s the problem. It was not contacted by others, maybe there is no such person at all.”
“It’s difficult to marry after 30 years of age, which makes me very anxious.”
Such routines do not only exist on a marriage and love website on Zhenai.com.
In July of this year, Wang Ru (pseudonym) received a text message from Jiayuan Jiayuan’s matchmaker, telling her that a man with a master’s degree, a height of 180cm, and a bank working income of 30,000+ per month is interested in her.
Wang Ru, who has always been single, quickly added the matchmaker’s WeChat, and several men recommended by the matchmaker in succession made her very excited. Some have a monthly income of 30,000, some have an annual salary of 500,000, and some have multiple suites in Haidian, Beijing.
Seeing the information of these high-quality men, Wang Ru agreed to meet the matchmaker offline. However, she encountered a two-hour PUA routine.
The meeting with the matchmaker took place in Jiayuan’s dating room of less than five square meters. This matchmaker is known as a graduate of Peking University with a major in criminal psychology and is currently the regional director of North China.
Wang Ru summarized the routine of the “Beijing University Matchmaker”:
The first step is to create anxiety and perform PUA. The matchmaker has been instilling in her the idea that “the probability of getting married before the age of 30 will be reduced”, and that “children will be difficult to give birth after the age of 30”, which makes her anxious;
The second step is to throw out bait and continue to encourage higher mate selection requirements. Wang Ru’s original condition for choosing a spouse was that he didn’t mind whether the other party had a Beijing household or housing. The monthly salary and educational background were similar to his own. But the matchmaker reprimanded her for being too low, “I have a female client who divorced with three children, and the requirements are higher than yours. She paid a very high membership fee, and I hope we can find an annual income of 500 for her. 10,000 high-quality men.”
The third step is to establish a sense of intimacy and continuously break through the psychological defense. During the meeting, the matchmaker asked Wang Ru about multiple sensitive topics such as physiology and psychology to build trust.
The last step is to ask for a contract. After completing the above steps, the matchmaker handed her the pen and asked to sign the contract as soon as possible. “If you sign this contract, it can be paid in installments for as long as 28,888 yuan. It will not cause any burden to you.”
Realizing that he was being routine, Wang Ru resolutely refused this request. Afterwards, she inquired and found that the matchmaker, who was known as the “District Director of North China”, was not found in the Peking University archives at all.
The amount of fraud is millions, and the total refund rate is 0
According to the data released by the Beijing Haidian Court recently, the number of criminal cases of marriage and dating fraud in the Haidian Court has been increasing year by year in the past three years.
From the perspective of crime, the behavior of getting acquainted through the Internet to conduct dating fraud is prominent. In addition to special marriage and love social networks, various software with social functions and social attributes has gradually become the original place for the breeding of marriage and dating fraud crimes.
Among these cases, fraud cases accounted for the highest proportion of cases with an amount of more than 500,000 yuan, but the refund rate of the stolen money and property involved in the case was relatively low. None of the fraud cases with a value of over one million yuan have all been refunded, and the recovery rate of the victims’ losses is extremely low.
The Haidian Court once reminded that users should first increase their awareness of preventing fraud in marriage and dating. When the other party proposes to borrow money for various reasons, keep a clear head and verify whether the reason for the loan and the amount of the loan are true.
In addition, marriage and dating platforms should also bear their own responsibilities. Registered members are required to fill in complete information and conduct real-name management for subsequent recourse. A blacklist system is set up for those who maliciously register on the dating website or even have a history of dating and dating fraud.
In fact, behind the frequent marriage and dating fraud cases in recent years are more or less related to the imperfect review of the information on dating websites. For marriage and love websites, to strengthen information review, it will inevitably pay a greater cost, and it will also affect the overall user data.
But for the marriage and love industry to continue and develop healthily, it is not possible to look only at “money” and to be truly responsible to users, so that the business model can move towards a virtuous circle. (Zhang Jun)